On Papering. Over or between "walls"

So this is my first post. And I am not one to spend alot of time of hand holding you into an experience, we must all simply, jump in, because that’s life. So the first post is on disappointment and the “papering” of it.

I had been presented with the idea of papering over disappointment in a rejection I faced( it was academic so the correct term is “ unsuccessful” but let’s be honest it’s rejection or failure no matter the terms that decided it ). Maybe it’s cultural or not, but papering over or in things, I struggled and still struggle with. So instead I chose to break it down (which is my course of action normally) and wrote the below:

So the other day, when I unexpectedly had free space before teaching, and after getting out some other gunk, I put the question 'can you paper over disappointment' into my body while moving. I started to sing  " it's only a paper moon, sailing over a cardboard sea, and it wouldn't make you believe if you believed in me" (1933 with music by Harold Arlen and lyrics by Yip Harburg and Billy Rose.) I was searching for lyrics more around the idea of papering rather than disappointment since that rep is quite vast. And began to think about the idea that something becomes "real" or shifts from make-believe only when it engages with another, or from an Ubuntu philosophy, I am because we are. So if 'it' (in this case disappointment) only exists within one individual, papering can't happen, simply because it hasn't become known in the world. 

However when it is shared by more than one individual, whether it is another who was involved directly, or indirectly when this disappointed individual has engaged with others in the process or that the process even influences others not directly involved, it becomes a thing. A shared experience or understanding, it becomes "known". If you position this "knowness" and this "thing" that has been created, it becomes a kind of an object, perhaps only an object of understanding and shared experience, but an object nonetheless.  And objects we can paper. Yet, it still doesn't have form, but we chose to give forms to non-formed things all the time, so in this case it is given the form of a wall.  So one ends up with an individual who can paper over this formed concept/understanding that for all intents and purposes acts and appears as a wall. I believe that image says enough, the individual who creates walls that they paper over in reaction to the sensation of disappointment. 

So Yea-No. One can in one sense, be it mostly metaphorically, can paper over disappointment, but no, as by doing so (and especially if you ever have had to physically steam layers of wallpaper off a wall) all you will have done is simply created or reinforced more disappointment. Even if it is kind of a natural default to do so.

Hit me with your best shot in the comments. My hair/mane might be from the late 70s early 80s even though I am not, I like different opinions.

C